This past week I had the privilege of attending a 4 day training in Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy (EFT) with Susan Johnson who wrote the wonderful book Hold Me Tight (which I highly recommend for couples!). EFT is based on attachment theory, which is essentially the theory (backed now by many, many research studies) that human beings of all ages bond with specific, trusted others to deal with life and ensure our survival. As infants, we attach to caregivers who act as a