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Self-Compassion: What is it and how do you do it?

It has been awhile since I last posted! I was fortunate enough to be able to spend the majority of September traveling in China and Tibet. It was an amazing trip, and part of the fun of traveling for me is having more time than usual to read books on my ever-growing “to read” list. One of the books I’ve been meaning to read for quite some time is a book called Self-Compassion: Stop beating yourself up and leave insecurity behind by Kristin Neff, Ph.D. As someone guilty of

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