April 30, 2017

I've been thinking a great deal recently about the concept of Intersectionality (for those of you unfamiliar this is the concept of appreciating how multiple identities of oppression and privilege intersect and influence our life experiences).   Using myself as an exam...

October 26, 2016

One of my clients recently had a baby, and a few months ago she said something to the effect of, “My husband and I are really trying, but even so, it’s really hard to know what’s going on with each other! How on earth do couples stay connected after having a baby?”

Such...

March 10, 2016

I’m always looking for ways to explain and talk about what happens in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT) so I was really excited recently when a colleague sent me this clip of a variety show that aired in the early 1950′s called “Your Show of Shows”.  Among the...

July 11, 2015

Yesterday I was meeting with my Perinatal Consultation group and our topic for the month was “Postpartum Couples”.  We had a really interesting discussion about some of the relationship patterns that we commonly see in couples struggling with the transition to parentho...

June 24, 2015

This past week I volunteered at a conference for psychotherapists learning the model of couples therapy I practice called Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT). I attended this same 4 day conference approximately 2 years ago when I was learning the model for the fi...

June 16, 2015

As a couples therapist, the question of “fault” comes up quite frequently.  Couples in distress are typically wondering – which one of us is “the problem”?  Who caused the last fight we had?  Much energy is spent either blaming oneself and feeling terrible or blaming o...

November 9, 2014

In my 10 week group, The Mindful Couple, we just finished week 5 and in this round of the group I’ve introduced the concept and practice of Basic Goodness. Basic Goodness is a concept in Buddhist philosophy that teaches that all human beings have the capacity to “wake...

June 4, 2013

This past week I had the privilege of attending a 4 day training in Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy (EFT) with Susan Johnson who wrote the wonderful book Hold Me Tight (which I highly recommend for couples!). EFT is based on attachment theory, which is essentially t...

January 29, 2013

“Whenever we give up, leave behind, and forget too much, there is always the danger that the things we have neglected will return with added force.”
-Carl Jung

“Those who cannot remember the past are condemned to repeat it.”
-George Santayana

When a person seeks out the...

October 14, 2012

A common scenario among couples is that both are aware that they have a hard time communicating about certain things – be it finances, in-laws, decisions around parenting, and numerous others in which people tend to have strong opinions, however, one person in the coup...

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