October 26, 2016

One of my clients recently had a baby, and a few months ago she said something to the effect of, “My husband and I are really trying, but even so, it’s really hard to know what’s going on with each other! How on earth do couples stay connected after having a baby?”

Such...

January 20, 2016

One thing that happened in 2015 is my beloved iPod (the classic) was stolen after someone broke into my car. (Lesson learned – never leave anything of value in your car!) After this, I had one of my first, and I know it won’t be my last, “old person” moments where I le...

July 11, 2015

Yesterday I was meeting with my Perinatal Consultation group and our topic for the month was “Postpartum Couples”.  We had a really interesting discussion about some of the relationship patterns that we commonly see in couples struggling with the transition to parentho...

June 16, 2015

As a couples therapist, the question of “fault” comes up quite frequently.  Couples in distress are typically wondering – which one of us is “the problem”?  Who caused the last fight we had?  Much energy is spent either blaming oneself and feeling terrible or blaming o...

June 15, 2015

It’s been far too long since I’ve posted here! I was inspired to start writing again by a disturbing but very educational experience I had recently.

A few weeks ago, I attended a conference for psychotherapists to learn a model of therapy called Functional Analytic Psyc...

November 9, 2014

In my 10 week group, The Mindful Couple, we just finished week 5 and in this round of the group I’ve introduced the concept and practice of Basic Goodness. Basic Goodness is a concept in Buddhist philosophy that teaches that all human beings have the capacity to “wake...

July 17, 2014

Yesterday I saw a clip on Good Morning America about rules to follow when you are fighting with your partner. It got me thinking about how I handle myself in my relationships and the couples that I work with in my practice who are working to improve their relationships...

May 14, 2013

This past week, I had the honor of being chosen to present at an event called FanFare, a yearly event hosted by a wonderful organization called the Family Action Network. (To check out their website click here: http://www.familyactionnetwork.net/) FanFare is an event s...

December 30, 2012

As we approach the new year, I am cleaning out my old day planner and starting a new one (yes, I am old school!) and found a sheet of paper from some notes I took at one of my Bowen family systems consultation groups this past year. The note is short, but sweet, and co...

December 13, 2012

Murray Bowen (family systems theorist and family therapist) famously coined the term “differentiation”.  Being differentiated means being clear on your own values and principles and being able to tell the difference between a “fact” and a “feeling”.  Sounds good, right...

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